Medium Stephen Wakeling Answers Your Questions

Date: 4 October 2013

Dear Stephen,

About 10 years ago, my family experienced more than one loss. One was especially devastating as it was my younger brother who was only 27 at the time. About a year later, my parents split up and my mother "accidentally" overdosed. She has never been the same and suffered damage to her brain. It has been very challenging as she was transported to another state and not expected to live. Because of the mental illness diagnosis and financial state of our economy, she has remained in that state where my sister and I see her every couple of months. She has had many hospitalizations and lives in a long term care home.

My question is... I hope she can forgive me and my sister for our lack of patience sometimes. She was diagnosed with Bi Polar at the time of her overdose which explained A LOT to me of our childhood growing up. Will my mom suffer with this "disease" when she passes? And will she be able to forgive us our own lack of patience sometimes? It's just so hard as I do love my mom, but... this is just a weird, wacky version of the mom I remember, even with all her struggles.

Thank You.